;) Loriloo...Mama Gunn kicks serious ass.  She is one of the kindest souls I have ever met.  You have made her soooooooo proud.  I don't understand this stuff either.  The only thing we know is what we do today.  There really is no other moment than this moment right now.

I will pray for her and you as well.  I can't imagine losing my paps.  But, if I did, I know he would want me to take everything he has taught me and share it with the world. 

Your mother will never leave you completely, only physically.  Spritually, she lives with you in your heart now and forever.

I am sorry you are going through this 

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Lorioo,

I have been through the death of my dad.  All I can say, is when the time comes, it is most important for you to be strong for those around you.  Be strong for you dad, and her grandkids.  Do not allow your brain to tell you that you cannot handle the pain.  If you allow that, then your grandkids have lost two... your mother and you.

 As for now, it is most important that you enjoy your time with her.  Do things together that you enjoy.  Ask her if she is proud, ... tell her that you are proud of her.  Tell her all the things she has taught you.  Tell her why you love her so much, what you enjoy about her.  Life here on earth is just that... it's what you make of it, so make it a JOY! 

Make sure that your memories are that of what you love about each other... not the fact that she smokes, or that you can't get her to stop... My dad died---- and he did not smoke, he did not drink, he ate healthy, he worked outside in the yard on a daily basis, he loved my mom, he didn't like to fight... well, I would not have changed a thing about my dad... but he still died. 

And I enjoyed the last month I had with him, and I have no anger... just wish that when I talked to him that he would talk back (but a simple, quit man wouldn't do that).

Who knows... people like your mom have been known to outlive many others... so just have fun!  And don't fear death!!!  It's okay, we are gonna go, so make earthly time worth it, don't allow society to bring you down, and for sure don't let your brain control what you are thinking and feeling, you can control it your self... many books on this... it could be food, or meditation, or natural herbs of the earth... but sedation??? Why would you do that to your family?  You're a mother!!  Be as strong as your own mother, follow what she has taught you!  And know that your friends a Bitchy Betty love you and support you!!! 

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