Divorce......or not Divorce???

Ok...its not me buuut I am verrry close to someone who is going through it......well he cant decide what he wants.....they have been together for 13 years and have two kidz.....he moved them all from the comfort of thier hometown.....took a HUGE paycut.....and now he is having personal issues with FINDING HIMSELF......ok....but we ALL change....ALL the time.....that is what we are supposed to do....right?......we change together sometimes but not all the time.....he is now doing things hes never done....diff music, workin out, wanting to shave his head, just some random things.......and now after all these years, even after up-rooting them from their hometown.....he says he has been unhappy for years now.....hummmmmmm...not gettin' it.......yes they fight here and their, prob more this year because of all the change......but...its ok to change.......she is realizing its ok to change and she will stand by him while hes going through this.....he doesnt want to believe her......

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Personally, I think he needs help.  Of course, I don;t know all the details but, sounds like he is unhappy with himself.  If this is the case, nobody will make him completely happy.

pitched by : aronado

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Divorce is for quitters....Marriage is the ultimate friendship and we all know that sooner or later even the best of friends get tired of each other. Once you add kids to the equation there is no turning back. Men can be no more than boys at any age or stage of their life, by that I mean that we say and do things at the spur of the moment and often without a lot of thought involved. Encourage them to stay together find the small things in each other that brought them together in the first place. Take some time away from each other and then find a time later for just the two of them. Marriage can be tidal. You have to ride the highs and lows. Some where in between are the really great days are usually if you look for them, there are more than not.

Definitely no room for divorce, especially if there are kids involved. 

pitched by : telluridenow

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People struggle to make the right choices every minute of the day. Some choices are simple, some are not. From my experience and from the observing the lives of others around me, everyone has their own journey. It's not about "you have kids therefore you need to stay married".

It sucks being a kid knowing one or both parents are unhappy. 

Honestly, it all starts from WITHIN. If you aren't whole, WITHIN, then you can never feel complete on the OUTside.

Divorce truly is devastating to ALL parties. I'm thinking though, that divorce is NOT the answer, nor is it the issue. The real issue is, change. You identified. Change is inevitable. We all need to adapt or get out.

I hope HE realizes that he is just going through CHANGE, because really, the grass is NOT greener on the other side.

I hope everything works out. I really do. 

pitched by : Digital Femme

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I think everything happens for a reason ....My parents divorced when i was young ... I now have agreat stepdad who i couldnt imagine growing up without...Doesnt mean i love my bio dad any less ... I know this sounds all good when your 33 and can look back and makes it no eaiser for her,but maybe take things in stride and everything will work out like its meant to....

pitched by : byrddoggiedog

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In this scenario, yes, it is about change.

Sounds like he has some issues and a good woman to stand by his side. 

Oh, wait, I'm talking about my life here. Yeah- Im going through something similiar myself right now.

I'll save that for my own blog.

* I agree that he needs help.

* "Men can be no more than boys at any age or stage of their life, by that I mean that we say and do things at the spur of the moment and often without a lot of thought involved." A-FUCKING-MEN. YEAH, BUDDY.

* " It's not about "you have kids therefore you need to stay married". It sucks being a kid knowing one or both parents are unhappy" Oh so very true. I wish my parents had gotten a divorce . Talk about some unhappy people. Talk about an unhappy little me.

I hope it all works out.

pitched by : rebelene13

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